February 4, 2020 | Andrew Stead
  • Don’t judge me by my success, judge me by how many times I fell down and got back up again ― Nelson Mandela


    South African revolutionary and politician, Nelson Mandela, certainly failed many times in his fight again apartheid.He spent 27 years in prison, but that wasn’t enough to break him.

    Hadn’t he had resilience and perseverance, perhaps apartheid would have lasted longer and our world would have felt less free.

    For sure, the single best way to avoid failure is inertia. When we’re paralyzed by our fear of failure, it’s just a lot easier to avoid every risky situation.

    Inertia means we won’t leave the job we hate because it’s easier to deal with our existing terrible boss rather than a new one; we won’t start dating again because we don’t want to get hurt; we won’t follow our dream for that fear of “what if I fail?”

    Guess what? You’ll fail, you’ll get hurt, and that’s amazing!

    I’m proud to list many of my own personal failures. Getting fired from my own business. Relationship failures. My inability to do a hand-stand are all up there!

    But guess what else? We learn to go back and fight for what we want, wiser and stronger. 

    How? Resilience is the super power we all need when things get gloomy and dark.

    And here are my secret ingredients to achieve the Resilience we need    

  • 1. Self-Awareness

    Self-awareness has been proven to be one of the key elements of resilience (Sharp, Jennings, 2015).  Listen to yourself, know your triggers and your weaknesses. Learn how to recognise your strengths and capacities.     

  • 2. Be Proactive

    Events in life can either crush you or make you change for the better. The way we react to the traumatic events happening in our life defines our ability to jump back in and be successful. Science demonstrates how what doesn’t kill you really can make us stronger (Bonanno and Mancini, 2008). So we can actively use that potential to thrive.

  • 3. Acceptance

    Failure and change are unequivocal parts of life. The quicker we accept them, the easier it is to keep going and achieve the goals we aspire to. A study on young adults and children demonstrated how acceptance is fundamental to achieve resilience (Karapurakkel et al., 2015)

  • 4. Flexibility

    Don’t confuse perseverance with obstinacy. Like I do! It’s okay to change your mind and it’s okay to change your plan. If the ideas you had in mind don’t end up working, don’t get upset or blame yourself. Let it go and move on.

  • 5. Breathe!

    Reboot your brain and shift your point of view by simply taking a breath. Find some time for yourself to practice mindfulness and meditation, and the effects on your brain will be extraordinary (Kwak et al., 2019). You don’t need to sit and meditate like a pro, just go for a walk, leave your phone at home, and enjoy the scenery!

  • EXTRA!

    Want to know the secret ingredient? Self-Esteem! Stay focused on your true values and always remember you’re worthy of great and fabulous things.

    You may also be surprised to know just how many celebrities and big personalities suffered low self-esteem for years before reaching success!

    Stephen King – one of the most famous authors of his time – got rejected 60 times before publishing his first short story. Jim Carrey and J.K. Rowling struggled financially before reaching global fame. Even Einstein struggled both in school and his career, well before becoming the very embodiment of intelligence itself.  

    Their secret? A giant dose of resilience and self-esteem!

    If you want to read more about successful stories of resilience read this article I wrote some time ago. [CLICK HERE]

    Now that you have the recipe for perfect resilience, it’s time to get cooking!

    Have a fantastic, resilient day,